One person you should never marry is the ambitious lazy lover. It is paradoxical to say someone is ambitious yet lazy but the truth is that there are many singles in this category but they can't be detected easily because they don't appear as lazy.

The ambitious lazy lover is that brother or sister who has great dreams and visions but is doing nothing to achieve his dreams. To make it simpler for comprehension, they talk about the good things they want to achieve, they love good life,  but they are so lazy to the point that you cannot easily detect it because of their sugar-coated mouth.

They can paint a picture of a great future to you but they are not doing anything at present pointing towards the direction of their desires. If the ambitious lazy lover is a brother, he will be a master at wooing ladies and promising them a better life. If you ask him what he does and where he works, you may hear him say, "I am a consultant" or "I am a contractor".

The painful thing about most ambitious lazy people is that they are always surrounded with work opportunities but they'll refuse/ reject those opportunities under the guise of "That job is below my level". They have a dream job but in their hearts, they know the job is not within reach because they don't have the skillset to attract it. They are utopian about life.

Ecclesiastes 9:10 says, "Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom".

The ambitious lazy lover will always hunt for a partner that is gainfully employed because he needs an economic escape valve. Men in this category are the type who end up putting all the financial responsibilities of the home on their wives. Women under such men work their fingers out and they always look older than their age because they are carrying a burden too much to bear.

When you see ambitious lazy men who are married to hardworking wives, they often dress well and look good, even younger than their wives. They steal from their wives or borrow and never return it. They don't care about school fees or rent. They are comfortable with whatever their wives provide though they can be choosy atimes. I can write an epistle about the ambitious lazy people.

A female ambitious lazy lover loves fashion and trends but hates to work. All she's looking for is a man to bill. Ladies in that category always have their gaze on young hardworking guys. They package themselves in a way that makes them look attractive. Sometimes, you can know a hard working lady by her looks. Work takes its toll on them but the other lady is ever fresh attractive.

The worst thing about the ambitious lazy lover is if he has some form of spirituality. He may wake up one day and say, "God has called me into full time ministry". He may not start that ministry neither will he work but he'll keep using "spiritual" slants to control and manipulate his wife. I have seen this severally. Some lazy folks are hiding under "God has called me" yet they are not making full proof of their ministries. The God I serve doesn't call lazy people.

To crown it all, the ambitious lazy lover may be narcissistic. He can manipulate his partner with statements like "Whatever you have is mine because what God has joined together, money should not put asunder". Actually, it is true but that truth becomes manipulative in the mouth of a lazy person unwilling to work just to manipulate the hardworking partner. That is why no single should marry a lazy person.

Dear single, If his dreams are in his mouth but he is lazying around doing nothing, don't marry him. Our kingdom is a kingdom of hardworking people.

He calls himself a consultant yet you have not asked to know the type of consulting he does or he says he is into contract. If you cannot confirm what he is into and be sure of what it is, don't go ahead. You may just be his next 'contract'. Some of them do not have certificates, they'll lie about when they were on campus but their spouses will not discover until after marriage.

Don't put your life in the hands of a parasite who wants good life yet is lazy to work it out. Know what he does, confirm his workplace and be sure he is working there.