Back in the days, I knew a fiery evangelist. His zeal was blazing hot but at the point of marriage, he missed it and his ministry died. He married a destiny terminator. He could have been a voice but he became voiceless because of marriage.  

There are wonderful sisters I knew while growing up as a young believer. The call of God was evident on their lives but evrything was buried because they married a destiny mortuary attendant.

There is something every single need to be clear about before signing the dotted lines, that is the issue of their life assignment and who fits. Every single guy or sister out there who is born again and tongue talking is not fit for your journey.

That someone is born again and tongue talking does not mean he can fit into God's plan for your life. The plan of God for your life is so precious and nothing should tamper with it, not even the person you want to marry.

Marriage should boost your life's assignment and not kill it. Marriage should bring out the best in you and not make you less than you were before entering into it.

One thing I settled with God as a single was to find direction for my life. Before I finished school,  I knew I was going into the ministry. Though I did not have a full understanding of the whole thing but I knew my direction. So, when I wanted to marry, I knew what I was looking.

I was not searching for another preacher though she preaches too.  I simply searched for one who will allow me to be me while I allow her to be who God wants her to be. No contradiction. I thank God for where I am today.

Your first assignment as a single is to discover God's plan for your life. Discover his purpose for your life and then prayerfully find the person that understands your assignment and can partner with you in that journey not one who will kill it.

I am not saying you should marry someone with the same assignment. That shouldn't even be your focus though God sometimes leads in that direction. However, what you need is someone who will allow you to be you. Someone that will give you wings to fly.

Someone who will give you the freedom to give expression to the gift and grace of God upon your life. You are God's investment. You cannot afford to fail him.

It will be a disaster If marriage becomes the burial ground of your life's assignment.

Don't marry a mortician. If she does not like your life's assignment and is not willing to stand by you, If he has shown signs of one who will stiffle the grace of God upon your life and won't give you wings to fly, you don't need anyone to tell you your next line of action.