There are two family ideals I'll love to emphasize among several others. The first is living together as a family unit and biblical parenting.

Let's start with the first. There are singles who do not value living together with their spouses and children. They want to marry yet continue living like a bachelor or spinster. They see marriage as a distraction.

Such people don't mind living apart from their spouses either by way of relocating to another country leaving their families behind. Their value system permits that and they see nothing wrong in it. They can come from America to pick a wife and leave her behind. They are cool with it.

Their personal ambition is stronger than the unity of the family. They want to be married but aren't ready to live the married life. As a single that have value for togetherness, the moment you noticed that he/she can sacrifice family for ambition, you need to have a rethink.

Don't let anyone marry you in country A while he goes to country B without a reunion plan. I have seen some couples live like this since the beginning of their marital life and I wonder If they didn't discuss it during courtship.

Single ladies must be sensitive to things like this. Don't marry for visa or just because you want to relocate. Some of the guys who come home during festivities will do everything in the world to lure you into marriage but once they are done with you, they'll leave you behind and move on.

Similar to that is parenting. One of the reasons for juvenile deliquency today is the problem of absentee fathers/mothers. Those who sacrifice family for personal ambition will reap the reward of raising deliquent children.

Another issue with contemporary parenting is when the two in marriage do not share same values about parenting. One believes children should not be disciplined while the other is a disciplinarian. One believes in pampering while the other doesn't. They may get along well in other areas but on this issue, they'll raise confused children.

In Malachi 2:15, the bible says, "Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth".

If he/she doesn't share the same value/ideals with you about parenting, probably, you are not meant for each other. If your ideas about raising godly seeds is totally opposite without a point of compromise, have a rethink.

These things may look inconsequential especially now that you are single, but they become a magnified problem in marriage. It may threaten the peace of the home.