The microwave oven warms our food quickly. It is very fast in reheating a cold food but it is not ideal for cooking food afresh. Cooks prefer to use the normal gas cooker, local stove or kerosine stove. Some singles want a microwave courtship. They want it quick. This is a red flag.

I have heard about people who met newly and married few weeks after. That's a big risk. It may work for some people but most of the time, it has its demerits. Microwave courtship often happens because someone is hasty.

To the single brother or sister reading this, do not let anyone marry you hastily under the guise of "time is no longer on my side" when you don't know him/her well. Many have succumbed to that kind of pressure and they married a beloved stranger.

Those who want to rush into marriage after few weeks/months of courtship often have something they don't want you to discover in the process of time. This is very common to deceitful people.

I'll be lying by saying I haven't seen couples embittered about a secret discovered months or years after marriage. No one loves to be deceived but if we fail to do due diligence, we may fall victim. Doing due diligence takes time.

Those that have something to hide know you may disvover certain secrets with time. Such people often try hard to get innocent persons committed quickly by taking them to the altar.

The truth about any marriage that will last is that the foundation must be laid solidly during courtship. A courtship where due diligence is done. This requires intentionality and quality time not necessarily too long a duration.

Beware of falling in love with "strangers".

Before accepting to go to the altar, you must have satisfied your conscience, righteous curiosity and have basic knowlegde about the person you're in love with.

You can't meet someone last month and start planning marriage this month. That's absurd. Use the season of courtship to verify claims even the schools he/she claimed to have attended. Do not let him/her put you under pressure to tie the knot immediately

In every court of law, cases are examined, cross examined and re examined before the judge gives a final verdict.

There's a "court" in courtship. Feel free to also examine, cross examine and re examine before going to the altar where you both will be pronounced husband and wife. This takes quality time( not necessarily too long a time) and patience.

Note, there are things only God can reveal to you but there are things you can sense by careful observation as you relate over time. In all, be prayerful and sensitive.

Let time take its full course. Beware of micro wave relationship/ courtship.