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*SINGLES: WATCHOUT FOR THESE SIGNS&FLEE* Pt.17

Proverbs 15:22: *"Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed*".

*THE LOVER WANTING TO MARRY ON REBOUND*

Entering a relationship on rebound is when someone starts a new relationship immediately after a previous whilst still dealing with the pains, hurts and issues from a previous relationship. Sometimes, some singles enter into a rebound relationship to spite their ex. They want to prove a point that they have options.

In most cases, rebound relationships are contracted emotionally and for selfish reasons not by the leading of the Spirit or rationality. It is borne out of desperation to be in relationship and not to be left behind. This is common to ladies who have fears of being left behind.

Some of them have suitors whose advances they've refused over the years. The moment their relationship ends, they'll scroll through their phone to check the last the guy who asked them out over a year or two. They'll initiate a conversation and say something like "concerning our last conversation, I have given your proposal a thought". This is someone they have ignored in years. In between, they've been in a relationship.

 

Instead of dealing with issues that broke their previous relationship and find healing, they'll ignore it and move on to the next. In their next relationship, the next person will now become a victim of their pains because they are carrying over so much hurts and pains into their new relationship.

Dear single, you must be sensitive in spotting these kind of people. Don't let anyone use you for rebound relationship. A sister you chased years back, now she is giving you a green light all of a sudden having broken communication with you, she might be looking to start a rebound relationship with you after the previous failed. Be smart.

I have seen some singles fall for this. Some will break their smooth running relationship to hook up with a sister they once chased years back. They won't bother about what happened during the period she was away&disconnected from them, and what has become of her. In fact, some take pride in the fact that they married someone who "stressed" them but returned after a while. What was she into during the period she ignored you and was with another person? Do you care how that period has shaped her life and mindset?

 

Action Point:

Before commiting yourself to anyone, be sure someone is not using you as one of his/her available options after a failed relationship. You are too precious to be one of the options.

Posted on Oct 15, 2025