A lady once confided in me about her past. A brother came to ask for her hand in marriage and both of them love each other. This brother was very serious about his intentions but this lady had fears about what may happen if her past was discovered.

I made her realize that she is now a child of God with a new life and if that brother understands what it means to be a new creation, he wouldn't go back on his decision.

I taught her what to do and she should go about disclosing her dark past and we prayed. She did exactly as I told her and the brother accepted her wholeheartedly. Today, they are married and doing fine in their marriage. They are ministers of the gospel as I speak.

One of the things that is hard for some singles to do is to accept their beloved as a new creation. Oftentimes, it is easy to look at people from the standpoint of their past life instead of looking at who they are now.

I counsel singles not to disclose their past too early in any relationship and also not to disclose it late. It should come at a time they know who they are dealing with and his level of maturity. There is a wisdom needed for disclosure which singles must learn because it is a sensitive matter.

However, If you have disclosed it too early and it seems he/she is reacting or using your past against you, that is not your spouse. He doesn't understand your present state as a new creation. In marriage, it will come up.

In 2 Corinthians 5:16(NLT), apostle Paul says, "So we have stopped evaluating others from a human point of view. At one time we thought of Christ merely from a human point of view. How differently we know him now".

There are married men who still remind their wives they were not virgins when they married. It breaks the heart of women in such marriages. Some men will call their wives "fairly use" or "Tokunbo" when they are angry. It shows those men are still seeing their wives from a human standpoint.

I have seen marriages break because one of them is a single parent and the other partner is struggling to accept the one with a child. Why marry a single mother when you know you cannot accept her and child(ren)?

Now that you in relationship, If you are constantly reminded about your past by the same person who claims to love you despite being born again, that love has a lot of question mark. Christ doesn't remind us about how awful we were and his love to us is unconditional.