Hebrews 13:4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.
INFIDELITY
I use to have a room mate back in school. He was in a relationship and we know this lady. Though I had my reservations about their relationship because this lady is a Christian but we know this guy wasn't. More so, this guy was a play boy. One day, while I was returning from class, I discovered two people were in the room. I decided to peep through the upper opening. I saw a man on top of a lady right on my bed. I decided I must catch this people red handed to know those defiling my bed. They failed to lock the door so I opened the door suddenly. I saw them lying on each other on my bed so they quickly re organized. What I saw startled me. This guy brought another girl different from his fiancée. The girl wasn't as pretty as this "church" girl. He was in a relationship with a "church" sister but he was still messing around with other girls. I was sad because the future of their marriage is predictable.
We live in a sex crazy world. A world where pre marital sex is seen as sport. It is appalling to hear about those in a relationship still sexually active with their ex. I have heard of ladies who went for send forth service( you know what I mean) in their boy friend house before going to the altar with another man. Abomination! It is even worse when some ladies say things like "he can cheat with other girls but he shouldn't let me know about it and he should use condom". Even some married women make statements like this. They believe all men cheat and that they can't help it. Please, not all men cheat. Some singles are in a relationship where they know the brother/ sister is still cheating on them but they're managing it thinking marriage will change him. Some even give their bodies to their fiancé/ fiancée thinking it is a way to help relief sexual tension but that won't stop a play boy/ girl. Listen to this, if he can cheat with you before marriage, he has the tendency to cheat on you in marriage.
Sexual discipline is a vital criteria you must consider before settling in marriage. Many marriages are chaotic today because of consistent act of infidelity. You can save yourself of this future trouble now by quitting that relationship where your partner still sees his/ her ex secretly. Single ladies, don't let anyone preach an evil sermon to you that you should manage him because all men cheat. They're setting you up for a life of pain and sorrow. If his erection is still a determinant of his direction, don't marry him.
In courtship, don't manage a partner that lacks sexual discipline.