Eccl 7:9 Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.
ANGER ISSUES
When I was single, I listened to several messages and read so many books on marriage. Till date, I still read books and listen to messages that can help my marriage. Back in the days as a single, I listened to a man, Pastor Chris Nwaka by name, a pastor in Living Faith. He said that anyone who want to know how to choose rightly should read the bible especially the book of Proverbs chapters 5- 7. I buried myself in those chapters looking for truths. As I read the bible further, I stumbled on this scripture: "Don’t befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered people," ( Prov 22:24). I asked myself, if the bible is saying we should not make friends with a man that is hot-tempered, will it be wise to marry someone that is hot-tempered? Of course, the answer is no. Immediately, a light shone into my heart and I knew one kind of person I shouldn't relate with- a hot-tempered person.
A relationship where the other party becomes irate, irascible and flare up at little things is a relationship that won't work. Somehow, we all get angry at one point or the other, but here the scriptures is talking about those who get angry at slightest provocation and do not know how to apply brakes. No tolerance, no endurance nothing. The precursor to most of the physical and verbal abuses people experience in marriage is anger. I've heard about some folks whose anger damages and destroys properties. The moment they get angry, they'll break the t.v., smash the home theatre on the floor, break their phones, break windscreen and scatter everywhere.
Jokingly, I always say that anyone that is not ready to take nonsense is not fit to marry. In a way, it is true. I've heard people who will say "I don't take shit". In marriage, you must learn how to take it, bake it and eat it. If you're on the way with someone who has bad temper issues, you can reconsider now. That beastly attitude won't make that relationship work except you want to be deceived. Anger makes people unreasonable and irrational. The worst is when crucial decisions are made in moments of anger. Instead of looking for tall, dark and handsome traits or her body built, have you taken your time to assess this issue of temper? Above all, the fruit of the Spirit in the life of a believer will sustain and make marriage work. The works of the flesh is an enemy of anything good God has created for your enjoyment, marriage inclusive. Gal5:19-22.
Father, I receive wisdom in relationship matters in Jesus name.