RELATIONSHIPS THAT WON'T WORK Pt.1

WHERE TRUST IS LACKING

When i talk about a relationship that won't work, I am not talking about a relationship that won't end in marriage. That's not what I mean. There are relationships or courtships that ended in marriage yet, they're not working out well. Those relationships are strained and stressed because certain things are missing. Somehow, when singles get certain things right in courtship before marriage, they're likely to have a marriage that will work. In courtship, it is expected that the foundation for a solid marriage is laid. I was talking to an elderly man who told me marriage is a black market. Though I didn't object openly because he may see it as being rude but I didn't agree with that ideology. For a child of God, marriage is not a black market when the Holy Spirit and sanctified/biblical common sense is involved in the choice making. People often ignore the place of the Spirit and the warning signs He gives before signing the dotted lines.

A relationship that won't work out well is a relationship where trust is lacking. I once read about a man who sniffed the panties of his wife trying to perceive the odour of condom. That's abnormal. He lived with his wife in perpetual suspicion. Due to lack of trust, some men prevent their wives from working. They believe exposure to the corporate world will make her cheat. In this days of technology, some track each other's calls and read SMS secretly always looking for evidences to validate their suspicion. As a single, if you find yourself in a relationship with someone whose attitude is to suspect and monitor you despite being truthful and clean, that relationship won't work even if angel Michael conduct your wedding service. It could also happen the other way. If you've lost the trust you have for your fiancé/fiancée because of certain negative things you saw(with evidences) and repentance is not in place, the tendency to always suspect that person is high even if you continue with the relationship.

To singles reading this piece, the simple rule of thumb here is this: Don't marry someone you can't trust and someone that doesn't trust you. Marriage can be miserable if trust is lacking. Some are incurably suspicious of their mate, even if their partner has proven to be trustworthy, they'll make life unbearable for the person. Those in this shoe knows how it feels. Where trust is lacking, love would be missing. Don't manage a relationship where trust issues is a reoccurring problem. It doesn't always work out well. That is not to say you should be foolish. While in courtship, if your partner has proven to be untrustworthy consistently, you don't need a special counseling session to tell you what to do. A balance must be maintained here. Marriage is for those that can trust and are trustworthy.