Jer7:24 But they did not obey or incline their ear, but walked in their own counsels and the stubbornness of their evil hearts, and went backward and not forward ( ESV).
Sometime ago, a man in church called me aside to counsel me on how to handle my wife. I can't remember If it was before my wedding or immediately after.
He told me never to open-up on my finances to her and ensure that I keep secrets from her. He told me how he had been dealing with his own wife in that regard.
He spoke fluently about it to an extent that we stood for several minutes without knowing time had gone.
At the end of the conversation, I can't remember saying anything but within me, I knew that his advice were counter-peace for marriage so I didn't take it. That counsel died right there.
I don't have regrets that my wife knows everything about my finances. That has helped us to plan and manage money prudently. She won't tell me to buy what we can't afford because she knows what we have.
Beware of bad advisers. Those who will tell you to turn the heat on in your home but aren't doing same in theirs. Those who counsel you break your home but are keeping theirs. Such are bad counselors.
I read about a woman that attended a meeting where she was told that women aren't cooks so they should stop cooking for their husbands.
She got home and told her loving husband she won't cook again. After sometime, the man sent her packing. She lost her home to bad counsel but her advisers may have theirs intact.
It is not every counsel you take or listen to especially as regards marriage. What works for Mr 'A' may not work for Mr 'B'. You should fashion out what works for you and stick to it as long as it is biblical.
When you need counsel, ask the Spirit of God first and dig out wisdom from the scriptures. If God want you to ask someone, He will direct you to someone that is spiritually sound who will tell you His mind.
Not all counsel are for taking, run from bad advisers.
Father, I receive wisdom In Jesus name. Amen