1Thess5:17 Never stop praying. NLT
The first time I visited a prayer mountain, I was surprised at what I saw. The section of the prayer mountain where I prayed was for men only. On one of the days, the preacher on the prayer mountain asked to know those who came to the mountain to pray because they were told their wives was their problem. More than 80% of men in attendance raised their hands. You may not understand what played out there but I'll try to explain. Most of the men who raised their hands had serious misunderstandings with their wives. They've met a prophet or someone who told them to pray their wives away so that they can have peace of mind. Quite a number of them weren't on the mountain to pray repentance or change of heart for their wives. They simply wanted their wives dead before they return home. I have witnessed this whenever I go to the mountain to pray. I won't forget a night on the mountain, when we were praying, a middle aged man interrupted our prayers and shouted "it is my wife". He was tired of his wife and he wanted us to rain fire on her through prayers. I met another man by proxy years back. His wife was pregnant and his prayer point was that she die with pregnancy. Unfortunately, most of those men always return home to meet their wives eating chicken and enjoying life. God doesn't answer wicked prayers.
Before you pray fire and brimstone on your spouse, do you pray for him/her always? If yes, what do you pray about?
Most people who complain about their spouse rarely pray for them. How often do you pray for and with your spouse? There are women who have resolved to pray for their children only but if you ask them to pray for their husbands, they may say "he has chosen his path, let me focus on my children because they are my future". There are husbands who pray about other things but when it comes to praying for their wives, they are tongue-tied. Early In your marriage or even prior(for singles), your spouse should be on your prayer list. You don't wait till when there's a misunderstanding before making your spouse your prayer point. It is better to make your spouse your prayer focus before he/she becomes your prayer request.
Prayer is the glue that binds all together. It may seem as though all we've been saying so far sound like methods but I want to put it to you that none will work unless they're backed by prayers. The Holy Spirit has the key to fixing any missing understanding in our homes. Sometimes, certain issues require prayer more than any other thing. With prayer, you can capture the heart of your spouse to be obedient to God's word. The bible says, "The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will."(Prov21:1). There is no stony heart that God cannot break. I have discovered over the years that when I hold hands to pray with my wife and pray for her when we have misunderstanding, we find resolution easy. Form the habit of mentioning your spouse name to God daily. Also, learn to hold hands with her and pray in agreement. That atmosphere helps in fixing missing understanding. You won't want to fight someone who is your prayer partner. This is sanctified common sense.