Proverbs 16:2 All the ways of a man are clean in his own sight, but the Lord weighs the motives.
CHECK YOUR MOTIVES
In public speaking class, my lecturer shared his experience with us. He was invited to preach in a meeting where his mentor in ministry was billed to attend. His mentor had become a general overseer of one of the biggest denominations in Nigeria at the time he was invited to preach. On that fateful day, he decided to preach to impress his mentor who was an erudite bible scholar. When he mounted the pulpit, he began to preach without a bearing because he wanted to impress his mentor but he discovered he hadn't said anything meaningful after 30 minutes. His wife had to take the microphone from him to bail him out of that mess because it was glaring to all that he successfully said nothing meaningful. Why did he fumble? Wrong motive! He wanted to impress.
Before taking any decision, be sure your motives are right. Bad motives corrupts good actions. Your motive for doing a thing will determine to a large extent your motivation. A man can do what is seemingly good in the eyes of all but if the motive is wrong, he may mess things up. There are laudable initiatives fueled by wrong motives, some church programs and events are inclusive in this. A pastor i respect said he sat with his wife to cancel programs and meetings God didn't lead them to do. Probably, they saw others doing it and they felt they could do it as well. It is common to see people decide on a course of action to prove a point to others. Anytime you decide to prove a point to others, you'll make decisions that are most likely going to be wrong. Why? Your motive has knock kneel. The spirit of competition fuels bad motive.
Some enter into relationships on rebound. They're yet to heal from a heartbreak but they want to prove a point to their ex that they can't be dumped and left on the shelf in singles super market. Such people often jump off into relationship with anyone that is available not minding whether they're right or wrong. They may even send cryptic posts to their ex on social media telling him/her about "God's ever available replacement". I see these things and one can easily tell that such decisions are not qualitative. If you don't want to miss it in your decisions, always check the motive behind them. Always ask yourself the " why" behind your decision. Be sincere in your self appraisal and evaluation.
Check your motives before embarking on a course of action.