“The words of a talebearer are like tasty trifles, and they go down into the inmost body" (Proverbs 18:8).
I read about three friends that are pastors. They had a meeting where they decided to confide in one another about their sins probably to find help and be accountable. The first one said he had been stealing from church purse, the second one confessed to adultery while the third man started crying profusely.
His friends probed to know the reason for the tears. He said, "my weakness is that anything people tell me, i'll tell it to everyonone"( paraphrase). His other two friends knew they were in trouble because they confided in the wrong person. The world will know all they had done.
Probably, the reason he cannot keep confidence was because he talks too much. Someone who talks too much is prone to gossip and tale bearing. One of the problems with talking too much is that you will not know when you'll start betraying confidence. It makes people run far from gossips and tale bearers. Members hardly confidebin pastors who talk too much.
“He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, therefore do not associate with a gossip" (Proverbs 20:19 NASB)
Tale bearers are the reason strife continues unabated in families, churches, communities, offices and among friends. The bible says, "Where there is no wood, the fire goes out; and where there is no talebearer, strife ceases” (Proverbs 26:20).
Exercise some control in matters of speaking. The mouth is not meant to say everything heard or seen. There are things you'll hear or see but you must act as though you never heard or saw it because you know divulging such will cause trouble.
Even God doesn't share deep things with those who talk too much. You are not meant to share all encounters with men. Carnal minds won't comprehend it. They will go on social media to trend with it and you'll be misunderstood.
Sometimes, when I see some preachers come under bitter criticism for certain statements made on the pulpit, often I conclude they shouldn't have said what they said. Somethings are not meant for public consumption. Talk less.
