9th June, 2022.

FAMILY AFFAIRS Pt.4

Proverbs 14:1 The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

APPRECIATE HIS EFFORT

My wife has an attitude of thanking and praying for me whenever i give her money for upkeep or for the children. Also, she instruct the children to do same whenever I give her money to buy some of the things they need. I can't count the number of times my boys have come prostrating saying "Daddy thank you." I didn't teach her to do this but deep within my heart, I feel good and motivated to do more as God provides because someone appreciates the little I'm doing. I'm not a perfect dad neither am I the richest, In fact I trust God for every need in the family to be met and I've never thought to myself that I have the ability to meet all needs. However, I prioritize the needs of my wife and children more than mine because it is my duty to provide and I'm motivated through her good attitude and response. It is not enough to tell men to be hardworking, wives with hardworking husbands should show sincere appreciation. Responsible men are scarce.

One of the things that causes heart ache for men is to labour and not be appreciated for their labour. Some wives are insatiable, unappreciative and wicked. There are wives who collect children school fees from their husbands and do not pay in school. Some use the money for contribution, to re stock their shop or spend it on clothes and jewelries. Such attitude breaks the heart of any hardworking man. Another evil I've seen under the sun is women who pitch their children against their fathers. They intentionally re orientate their children to hate their fathers. They make the children feel their father doesn't care about them and that they're the one making provision available for their school fees, upkeep and all, whereas, their father does. Children raised by these mothers grow up resenting their dad because their mom told them he didn't contribute to their growth and development. This account for the reason some children take care of mothers more in old age. Mummy, it is an evil thing to make daddy look irresponsible in the eyes of your children. Even if you've shouldered the responsibility more, never make it known to your children.

I give it to my wife. There are times i didn't have money yet she made all things ready and still tell the children to come thank me. I don't need to tell them "Your mum did" because we are one. The family should run as a team even though we know there are individual roles and responsibilities but the system we operate in our homes should not undermine the principle of oneness in marriage. The bitter truth you need to know is that no man will meet all needs at all times. Don't get angry with him whenever he tells you he doesn't have. Things don't work out well for hardworking men at all times. Your duty is to help. That's the reason I don't support the idea of becoming a sit-at-home wife. Often, responsible men give sacrificially not necessarily out of abundance. All wives I know have more clothes than their husbands yet the man can manage the little he has not because he can't change colours like Chameleon just that priority differ. You also have a significant role to play in the welfare of the home. If you have a responsible husband, please, understand with him and appreciate him always. That's how to get more from him.