Amos 3:3 Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? (NLT)
The preacher who preached on our wedding day told us why his father was an underachiever all his life time. He counseled us against it
His father didn't work together with his mother as a team. His father was too independent and he felt he doesn't need the input of his mother.
He ignored her suggestions and counsel because he had a mindset that women aren't wise. Till date, there are men who do not plan with their wives. Their believe is that most women know nothing but money.
Have you ever come around men who describe women's brain as fish brain? If you know any of such, give them a "Pentecostal" distance. Such people may influence you to run your family on a solo mode.
God's intention for the family is to operate as a formidable team that will advance His purpose here on earth. Marriages on solo mode cannot fulfill God's purpose.
Oneness of the two should be the strongest unit on earth because the bonding should be spiritual, emotional, mental and physical.
If you don't want to live and die as an underachiever, work as a team with your spouse.
Every team runs with a vision and there are plans on how to achieve the vision. If I may ask, what plans do you have for your family and children?
An old man spoke to me with a regret laden tone years back. He lived in thesame rented apartment for over 40 years. He got married there and had all his children there. His grandchildren visited him there as well.
When landed property was cheap in their neighbourhood, the man was doing his thing while the wife was also doing her thing. No vision, no cooperation. Instead of working as a team, they were living as competitors and rivals.
After 40 years, the children of the late landlord sent them packing. They were tired of seeing his face. Money to build was not his problem. In his youthful days, he had a good job even until his retirement. He traveled abroad and enjoyed life but he spent a larger part of his married life( 40 years) as a tenant in thesame house. That shouldn't be your story.
As a man, your duty is to cast a vision for your family, interpret it correctly to your wife and let her know her role. That's leadership. You cannot estimate the value your wife will add to your life and family in general until you share your vision with her.
What women react to most times isn't lack of money but lack of vision. God created them to be led by their husbands. When they come under a bad family leader, they react negatively because something in them want to be guided and led.
Often, most single guys have inferiority complex problems when they come around a lady that has achieved. If only they know that such ladies crave true and genuine leadership, they won't run back If led.
Even some husbands have problems when their wives earn more. That's a sign of visionlessness and insecurity.
If the family runs as a team, your leadership will channel resources in the direction of your vision. In family team work, it is not "my money" neither is it "her money", it is "our money."
If a woman knows that her earnings would be spent on something profitable for the family, she won't hold back. By nature, women are givers naturally.
You can do little as an individual but you can do alot as a team. It is not always about abundance of resources but resourcefulness.
As the man, you're the leader. Sit with your wife and chart the course for a better life for your family, interpret your vision correctly and let her know the role she's to play.