THE LITTLE I KNOW ABOUT MARRIAGE Pt.8

YOUR MARRIAGE IS A TEMPLATE FOR YOUR CHILDREN'S MARRIAGE

Sometimes ago, I read a man online supporting domestic violence against women. He sounded weird to people because in a world where everyone is trying to protect women from physical assault, he thought otherwise.

I took my time to discern the rationale behind his ideology then I found out that his reference point was his parent's marriage. He claimed that his father beat his mother to correct her. Now, he's a grown man and he doesn't see anything wrong with that.

Let's thank God for the several marriage seminars and conferences for singles&married but I think we need quality and consistent trainings for parents as well because how parents live their lives as couples will most likely become a pattern their children will follow in marriage.

A poorly parented male will likely become a bad husband likewise females. Some of the challenges or problems marriage counselors are trying to fix in marriages stems from the parental foundation of either in the marriage.

I have seen well trained ladies who got married to husbands that were poorly raised. How did I know? When a father supports his son's stupidity, then you'll know he took after him.

While this may sound 'unspiritual' to some but I think one thing singles need to watch before saying 'yes' to anyone is the quality of parenting the person has received. This is my personal opinion.

What about If the person was raised in a dysfunctional home, does that mean singles should run from such persons? In cases like this, what the person need to check prayerfully is If the person has had a change of values different from where he/she is coming from.

If there's a change of value-system and Christ has worked on his/her heart, a 'Yes' is in order If the person is God's will. I hope I have cleared this.

If parents can become good models for their children, we'll have less marital crisis in our society because people reproduce after their kind.

A father who is not a godly father- figure to his sons will likely reproduce himself in his sons. A nagging mother will likely reproduce herself in her daughters.

Every marriage has a semblance of the family where those involved are coming from.

A woman once told my mum that the reason she causes trouble in her child's P.T.A.meetings is because her father did same when she was in school. She grew up thinking a P.T.A.meeting is a battle ground.

A research once conducted showed that children from divorced homes are likely to experience same in future because they have grown not to value the unity of marriage. What kind of marriage do you want your children to have?

Run your marriage well and your children will use your marriage as a template for theirs. While theirs may not be exactly like yours, they'll build on it and live a better life.

Dear married couples, your home is the first marriage seminar and conference your children will ever attend in the first 20-25 years of their lives. They are watching how you're running your lives as couples. No other marriage seminar or conference will be that long. Please, run your home well.

I don't know much about marriage but these are the little things I know about marriage. Hope this series blessed you?