Amos3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed? KJV
BEWARE OF UNREALISTIC MARITAL EXPECTATIONS
It is unhealthy to enter marriage with unrealistic expectations. One funny but unhealthy expectation some brothers had before entering into marriage was that sex will be daily. Funny, isn't it? Unfortunately, they were disappointed and many with such unrealistic expectation will still be disappointed.
While sex is basic in marriage and couples are encouraged not to deny one another, yet it is unrealistic to think it can be done daily. If there is a man who have sex daily, it is a pointer to joblessness or a sexual dysfunction.
The way and manner some preachers and marriage counselors present marriage to some is the reason some are in serious marital crisis today.
The idea of marriage some ladies have is akin to what they read in romantic novels. Some characters only exist on paper not in reality. You don't build marriage on ideaologies from fictional work. Marriage is for real people.
If you think the occasional disagreements you experience with your spouse is abnormal because you heard statements like: 'I have never had any disagreement with my spouse since we married', then you're simple hearted. You can believe monkeys drive cars and pilot planes.
There is a difference between marital crisis and petty disagreements that are occasional. It is possible to have a crisis-free marriage but marriage without disagreement on issues at least once in a lifetime is impossible.
The reason for this is because no two persons in marriage have exactly the same perspective on all issues. We handle our differences with maturity and grow into loving one another despite our different opinions.
In fact, love is strengthened as we learn to handle our differences with Christian maturity. Marriage is one institution I have come to know as the place where the state and level of your walk with God will be revealed to you.
If you're impatient, proud, intolerant, insensitive,etc marriage will reveal all these to you. All these will make a good believer go back to God for refining of character. We are projects in progress in God's hands.
If you enter into marriage with unrealistic assumptions, you'll feel disappointed when certain realities hit you. That doesn't mean you should be expecting the worse but what I'm saying is that you should be realistic with your expectation as much as possible.
You did not marry an angel. Even If you do, because you're human, you'll need to learn how to cope with an angel in marriage because they have wings but you don't. Can you live with a winged being perfectly?
Listen, there's no perfect marriage here on earth but there can only be an ideal marriage.
The perfect marriage will be when Christ( our groom) comes for the church( his bride) but now, He is still washing us daily with the water of the word. In the glorious bye and bye, we'll be exactly like him.
A marriage where Christ is the head through the man, where the wife is submissive with godly children is the ideal marriage we can have on this side of eternity.
Conflict of ideas and opinion may arise in marriage but it doesn't need to degenerate into crisis. Disagreeing without being disagreeable is what makes marriage work.
Check those unrealistic expectations and dump them where they belong- planet utopia. As couples, work towards agreeing on major areas of difference maturedly.