SINGLES, BE WISE Pt.7

AGREEMENT ON LIFE'S PURPOSE AND VISION.

A wrong marriage is a burial ground for great visions and destinies.

Another wisdom you need before committing yourself to marriage is to be sure the person knows the details and intricacies of your life's purpose and is willing to cooperate with you.

Anywhere there's no agreement on vision and purpose, the marriage may not work. You carry a destiny that is peculiar and cannot afford to marry just anyone.

Sometime ago, I discussed with a divorcee. During our discussion, I was shocked when the woman told me one of the reasons why there was a crack in her marriage was because the church mandated her husband to go and plant a church.

They made him a Pastor by force. Now, this woman told me that didn't go well with her because she can't cope. I understand her perfectly when she said she can't cope.

It takes alot to be a Pastor's wife let alone being a Pastor. As simple as you may think that issue is, it affected that marriage. That doesn't mean she's not a good woman but she's not suited for that kind of life.

Church leaders need to be sensitive to this things. Ordination should come with the consent of husband and wife. If one-sided, the church should not go ahead.The wife must know what the assignment entails.

I know an evangelist whose wife hastened his death. He belonged to the class of fiery and raw evangelists but his wife stood opposed to him and his calling. He died in pains.

One of the things you need to diagnose before committing yourself to a life long relationship is the compatibility of vision and purpose. We're not talking about sameness of purpose and vision.

There's no rule that says If he's a pastor you must be a pastor or if she's a singer, you must be a drummer or keyboardist. That's not what we're saying.

What matters most is the freedom given to each other to express their God-given giftings without hindrance and to ensure the purpose of individual finds expression without opposition.

A good marriage should enhance your life's vision. Not many people can handle the weight of responsibility that comes with your assignment in life that's why you can't marry anybody.

If as a single you have been praying to discover your spouse, the first prayer you should pray is the prayer of purpose discovery. Purpose discovery leads to spouse discovery.

Knowing your purpose in life will give you an idea of the kind of man or woman you can marry.

I watched a man on t. v. saying that he cannot allow his wife to work because a woman wasn't created to work. She should just face the children and handle kitchen matters.

It is clear that such a man will kill all the potential in his wife and will not give her a platform to express her giftings.

God doesn't just give his children a spouse without considering this issue of vision and purpose because He want to make profit from our lives.

God makes profit when we fulfill our assignment here on earth. As a loving father, He will not give you a spouse that will ruin His purpose and plans for your life.

Before going to the altar, ask questions along this line and be very sure marriage won't be a burial ground for your vision and purpose in life.