SINGLES, BE WISE Pt.5

PASTORAL OVERSIGHT&GODLY MENTORS

Most marital mistakes people make are avoidable. Yes they are.

The Holy Spirit is the revealer of hidden secrets but sometimes He uses his servants in this regard.

The undoing of some singles is that they're playing hide and seek game with their relationship. They're afraid to open it up to their pastors and godly mentors.

My senior pastor once shared his experience with us. He told us about two singles who could have fallen victim of phony people but were rescued on time.

If those relationships had missed his desk, those involved may have signed up for a life of marital misery.

One wisdom you need as a single is to submit your relationship to godly mentors.

There's tendency to be emotional about our decision sometimes but someone who is neutral and genuinely interested in our all-round wellness may see things from an unbiased point of view.

It is dangerous to bypass order. This is what I mean. Ideally, you shouldn't conclude on an important issue such as marriage without carrying your pastor along.

Obey your spiritual leaders, and do what they say. Their work is to watch over your souls, and they are accountable to God. Give them reason to do this with joy and not with sorrow. That would certainly not be for your benefit ( Hebrews 13:17 NLT).

I have heard of tricks people play when they want to present their life partner to their pastors.

A divorced woman confessed that she taught her husband how to answer her pastor during their courtship days.

She knew the man was not saved and the secret could be exposed in his office. So she prepared him for the questioning.

At the end, she married the man but she was no longer married when she told her story.

If she was really sure about her decision, why did she plot a scheme on how her husband would answer her pastor's question?

If you don't want to miss it, let your pastor drill him/ her. There are certain things that can be unraveled in the presence of a genuine, wise and anointed servant of God.

If that brother/ sister can't speak about his salvation experience convincingly and his walk with the Lord to your pastor/ mentor, that's enough reason for you to go and pray again.

I have seen singles who care about other things except the spiritual life of the person they intend to marry.

Pretenders cannot stand the wisdom of God in the life of a genuine servant of God. Pretense and phony life has its own limit with certain people and system.

Some churches have a very sound system of marital counseling and investigation before they join couples.

I encourage singles to submit to such and not run away as long as it is biblical. Don't settle for an out-of- church wedding because you want to bypass order.

Some of those who ran from laid down church order for marriage are crying secretly today.

In thesame vein, it is also dangerous to set sail in marriage with someone who doesn't have pastoral oversight.

There are many loose canons hunting for spouses today. They are not under sound mentorship, they're just church goers who want to do things their own way.

Sometimes, these people are lost in the crowd intentionally because they want to be the alpha and omega of their lives.

It is dangerous for a single not to have someone who can call him to order. Very dangerous.

There's a Yoruba proverb that says "A dog that will get lost will not listen to the hunter's whistle".

That only applies to a dog that has a hunter. Some dogs don't even have a hunter let alone listening to his whistle.

If she can't point you to his/ her mentor or pastor, that may be a dangerous signal. I'm not talking about mentors and pastors from a distance.

True mentoring and pastoring entails access. Whoever you don't have access to and doesn't have access to you cannot mentor you effectively.

You can't call a man your pastor, mentor, spiritual father If access and submission is missing.

The bane of modern christianity is that we have many people who are lost in the crowd in some of our churches.

They attend a church quite alright but not one of their spiritual leaders know them up close and personal.

They attend church to shout "Amen" but no one is checking on their spiritual growth and progress. Sad!

I've met several women in the course of counseling who reported their husbands to me.

After talking about what they're going through, I often ask who their husbands submit to as pastor. My discoveries are shocking.

Some of them married a church goer without a pastor. Same applies to some men. It is always hard to help such people because the man/woman hasn't been listening to the counsel of anyone all along.

Tall, dark and handsome isn't enough. Hour glass shape is not a recipe for a good marriage.

Don't rush into marriage without paying attention to this little but important detail.

This is one of the wisdom you need. Singles, be wise.

CONFESSION: Father, I receive wisdom from above for my relationship and marriage. I will not miss it in Jesus name.

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