1 Pet3:7 In the same way, you husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way [with great gentleness and tact, and with an intelligent regard for the marriage relationship].... AMP
LOVE ATTRACTS BUT UNDERSTANDING SUSTAINS MARRIAGE
Anytime i read news either online or in printed media, at least i'll see a case of divorce once in two weeks. I have taken my time to analyse critically what went wrong in most of those marriages. As an aside, i have observed a trend among some divorcees, whenever they ask them if they love their estranged spouses, quite a number claimed they still loved their ex but they can't live together because of irreconciliable differences. I know you've heard that statement too. If a man is professing to still love a woman he has divorced, what could be wrong?
My conclusion was that lack of understanding contributed to the failure of their marriage not lack of love. Love can attract but understanding sustains. We have seen love birds who professed undying love for each other but ended their marriage bitterly. When you talk to divorcees, they may speak bitterly about their estranged spouses but deep within, the affection is still there. Misunderstanding in marriage results from 'missing understanding' about your partner. Once proper understanding is in place, the marriage remains.
As a husband, you need to spend time to study your wife so that you can understand her. Same applies to wives. The way Mr 'A' is loving and living with his wife may not work for you because Mrs 'A' is different from your wife. As you love, seek to understand. Don't complain that your wife talks too much, generally women are wired to talk. Just be a good listener. Don't complain about your husband's love for sport, be part of it. If he's a Chelsea fan, be an Arsenal fan, watching football together could be romantic. Change the things you can change but don't be mad about those things you can't change.
Father, i receive the grace to love my spouse with understanding In Jesus name.