18th May,2022.

HER CHICANERY DID NOT WORK

Proverbs 2:11 Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you.

During my service year, a sister from another zone of our fellowship in another town sent me a message telling me God told her to start praying for me till I finish my tenure as one of the fellowship leaders. I was happy God raised an intercessor for me. It was something I loved because I knew I needed God to succeed. Sometimes, this sister would send "dangerous" scriptures praying for me. Those scriptures were great scriptures that will motivate anyone to pray. All our conversations were on the phone, we didn't meet physically. As time went on, I noticed she began to ask personal questions. Her messages became more personal. On my birthday, she asked how old I was but I declined. I insisted that her duty was to be my personal intercessor and nothing more. She dragged the matter with me to the point of vexation. I told her to tell me hers before telling her mine. She did so I told her mine. She was four years older than me. The moment I did, she accused me of lying because I looked older than the age I claimed. She said she saw my younger brother's picture on Facebook and he looks older than her how much more me. I never knew she had gone behind me to check my family. My younger brother has an intimidating stature but he's my younger brother.

Up to this point, all the conversations we had were via SMS. I didn't even know her facially. I was curious to know what she was up to. She said from the day she saw me, she knew I would be her husband. Ahhh!!! She said she sat facing me in one of our conferences but I didn't notice her so she visited our lodge yet I didn't notice her. I didn't know someone was busy scheming to get me. I was busy serving God and enjoying myself. I told her I wasn't ready for marriage. Later, she told me she cried all night when I rejected her "proposal." When I heard all her tales, I knew her decision to intercede for me was all a ruse. She only used that to gain access to me thinking that will endear me to her. I saw desperation and trickery written all over her. So I asked why she had to do all that. Then she told me her story of previous heartbreak. I prayed with her and discharged her. In all these, I carried some of my associates along and I kept evidences of conversation. That was a form of security.

Dear single, don't employ gimmicks in getting a spouse. You don't need it. You will never make the right choice if you're not clear headed and detached emotionally. It is normal to be attracted to a beautiful lady or handsome brother but attraction isn't enough reason to marry. Other things must be considered. One of the lies the enemy sells to singles is "Time is going". To some, especially the ladies, he'll tell them "Your biological clock is ticking." All these put together makes some that are unstable to employ gimmicks in getting a mate. Some throw caution to the wind and they'll start cohabiting and acting as a wife that they're not. Some lower the standard of righteousness to get a mate. Some ladies have been told that if they don't marry by age thirty, they may not get a good husband. That's a big lie. If you employ gimmicks to get a husband, you'll need to use a lot of gimmicks to keep him. If you lower the standard of righteousness to get him, you will comprise your faith to keep him. To the single that is discouraged, God hasn't forgotten you. Live your life like every other normal person. Singleness isn't a stigma neither is it a spiritual problem except in rare cases. Find purpose and live for a cause. As you walk that path, you'll find your mate. Purpose discovery leads to spouse discovery. No matter the number of Saturdays spent celebrating others, yours will come at the right time. Wait patiently on God, let Him match-make you.