19th May, 2022.

STOP CONSULTING- HEAR HIM

Proverbs 2:11 Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you.

Towards the end of my service year, on a certain day, my predecessor called to ask if there was any relationship between me and a particular sister in one of the zones. I told him there was nothing of such. I couldn't haven't done that because we had a rule that prohibited us from entering a relationship with the opposite sex. He asked if I've been talking to her but my response was 'No'. Now, the sister in question was a leader in her zone. If there was any discussion, it would have been on fellowship related matters but there was none because I related with her superior( Zonal Coordinator) not her. Having had funny experiences with some sisters, I asked my predecessor what the problem was. He told me this sister told him she took my name and others somewhere and she was told those other brothers have good morning time but bad evening time and vice versa but when the "diviner" saw my name, he said morning, afternoon and evening will be good. When I heard that, I was jolted like a statue in the middle of an overflowing river. That sounded diabolical to me. Knowing that I regard my predecessor, probably she thought telling him would make him convince me about her. Sorry! I wasn't interested.

I couldn't believe a sister in our fellowship who had listened to sound doctrine could go to "seers" or "diviners" consulting on names. Not long after, she began to send me her pictures via email, several poses with several clothes. Immediately, I reported the situation to my associates. They were my security in such matters. I kept no secret on such matters. After she did all that without achieving success, she decided to visit our lodge known as "Family House". My self and associates were shocked to see her. My associates taunted me upon seeing her one evening. I ignored her politely till she left. I didn't hear anything from her again not until after service. One bright afternoon, I received a call from a man who introduced himself as a Pastor to this sister. I was shocked. In my mind, I thought everything ended in service. He said her spiritual daughter told him I was interested in her and that he's been praying about me. He called to confirm if I was truly interested. I told him point blank that I was never interested in her neither did I say anything that suggested such. I made him realize her spiritual daughter was the one who took my name somewhere and was talking to people to talk to me like he was doing. Quickly, he cut the call.

Dear single, long before you reach the point of making a choice of whom to marry, develop the ability to hear from God and how to discern his voice rightly. Only babies and mischievous people take names and pictures around for someone to help see visions. I believe in bible-based counseling from mature Christians on the issue of marriage but I don't subscribe to the idea of getting someone to see visions for you on the choice of whom to marry. God is your father, He wants to speak to you about the issues of your life. In His word, He promised to lead and direct us by himself: "I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye (Psalm 32:8 KJV). Our earthly father won't communicate with us by proxy how much more our heavenly father. Relationship with God should come first before thinking of relationship with man. You won't get it right with men until you get it right with God. No guess work in our walk. The cordiality of your relationship with God will help you to discern the right relationship to enter with men without needing someone to consult for you. Beware of patronising "spiritual consultants" on the choice of whom to marry. The ability to make informed decisions and stand by it and take responsibility is known as maturity. We decide for babies and take responsibility for them to a large extent but if as an adult, someone else decide for you, you'll bear the consequences and take all the responsibility. If you're not mature enough to hear from God by yourself on day-to-day decisions, don't bother getting married until that aspect is sorted.