ANTI MARITAL SUCCESS MENTALITY Pt. 5

ALL MEN ARE CHEATS AND WOMEN ARE HOES

I watched a video where a lady stressed that all men are cheats and nothing can be done about it. I have read several times on blogs where men wrote that women are hoes and are not loyal. This is a demonic mentality that makes singles settle for anything and distort the trust between couples. There are singles who stayed in a relationship where their mate is cheating on them. Instead of calling it quits, they'll rationalize their stay in that relationship with this evil mentality of "All men are cheats and women are hoes". This mindset is not healthy if you will have a successful relationship and marriage. Not all men cheat and all ladies aren't hoes. You need to change your mindset about this if you want to have a peaceful marriage. The mindset with which you approach marriage matters a lot. Also, do not use the experience of others in marriage to form your conclusion.

The major challenge this evil mindset poses is that you'll live to suspect your spouse forever except you change your mindset. One of the problems some marriages are facing today is lack of trust. Not because the parties involved aren't faithful but because someone has a mind wired not to trust. This mindset is the reason why some wives try to eavesdrop on every conversation their husbands makes and some husbands try to read all SMS on their wives phone just to prove this point. Some women have developed high blood pressure due to lack of trust. Some men have grounded their wives and prevented them from living a productive life because they are always suspicious of infidelity. No marriage can succeed this way. If you ask some men who made their wives to become sit-at-home wives, some of them will tell you that they can't trust a working class wife forgetting that there are full house wives who are cheating fully.

Have I said infidelity doesn't exist or happen in some marriages? Of course not. However, as a single, do not ruin your future marital joy with that mentality so that you won't live all your marital life in suspicion. As a general rule of thumb, do not marry a man or woman you can't trust. Simple! The moment you notice traces of infidelity in your would-be spouse, you are at liberty to call it quit. Don't justify immorality with the common mindset people have in town. Some are managing a relationship that is doomed to fail. Whenever they seek counsel from their friends, they'll tell them cheating is normal. Dearest, cheating or any form of sexual immorality is not normal. It is a sin. Do not accept it as the norm. Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery, Hebrews 13:4 NLT.