1 Corinthians 6:18 *"Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body*".
*EFFECTS OF PORN IN MARRIAGE*(e)
Imagine you eat very hot peppersoup with plenty of spices every night from a food joint. After a while, your wife's home-cooked soup may become tasteless to you not because her soup is bad, but because your taste buds has been over-spiced. That is what porn does to the brain of those who are addicted to it.
Porn over-spices your brain. Then real love tastes like nothing. Real sex becomes distasteful because the brain has been wired wrongly.
*V. IT NUMBS YOUR DESIRE FOR REAL SEX WITH YOUR SPOUSE*
There are husbands who deny their wives and vice versa. While it is common for men to complain about their wives denying them, some wives also experience the same. One of the reasons for that is traceable to porn addiction.
1 Corinthians 7:5 enjoins couples not to deprive each other but porn does exactly that. It deprives your spouse while you are lying right beside them because it numbs desire for real sex.
Porn addiction is fingered as one of the reasons for erectile dysfunction in some men. When watching porn, they have strong erection but their erection becomes weak or none when with their wives.
Some porn addicted women are not left out in this. Sex with their husbands is as though nothing happens to them. Their feelings&emotions are numb. Some reject the sexual advances of their husbands outrightly because of the images of porn stars in their head.
They imagine his touch but they are dead to their husband's touch. Scientists call this dopamine desensitization. At this point, normal show of affection no longer cause arousal.
Porn rewires the brain to want sex quick and engaging like the screen pixels but numbs the desire for real intimacy which happens slowly and systematically. So, when the real spouse is available, emotions die. Scientists call this arousal template shift.
The unfortunate thing about porn addiction is that after a long time of exposure, the brain wants something more than regular porn between man&woman. There might be a temptation to explore gay or lesbian porn. At this point, chronic demonization and depravity sets in.
If this teaching speaks about your present condition, you need to relearn intimacy consciously and deaden the motions of the flesh stirred through porn. Your mind is the seat of your problem and the cure is thorough mind renewal with God's word and eviction of demons that has held your mind captive.
In addition, you need to be accountable to someone who can help you and lead you back to the place of total purity. Do not joke with accountability.
Let's pray the prayer of the psalmist in Psalm 119:37 says, *"Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways*".