PORNOGRAPHY Pt.6

Several times, I have heard or read some couples ask If they can watch porn to spice up their bedroom life or learn new things. Some think they can learn from Satan's playbook.

Watching pornography does not help marriage a bit because it will create more problems than you are trying to solve. Also, a single that is addicted to pornography is a time bomb waiting to explode in marriage. Some of the negative effects of pornography include:

*1#. IT CREATES UNREALISTIC BEDROOM EXPECTATION*.

Sometime ago,  a brother was considering to marry a sister he met in their campus fellowship. They got talking. During one of their conversations, the sister told the brother that her sexual expectation in marriage is for her husband to last 15 hours in bed.

When this holy brother heard her weird expectation, he quietly perished the thought of getting married to her and he moved on. Something has tampered with that lady's brain. I want to assume porn is it because it creates unrealistic sexual expectation from one's partner.

No normal man can last 15 hours in bed. Most people who watch porn actors last long before ejaculating often fail to realize they are acting, it is not real. Camera and editing effects can make a single penile thrust look as though it lasted one hour. Film tricks are employed to make porn look engaging but it is not real.

Also, some of them are on drugs that enhance performance. They are not engaged in a natural exercise because they want to satisfy their directors and producers.

*Porn is acting( make believe) but marriage is reality. What you watch in pornography may not be replicated in your marriage*.

Many women claiming they are not getting satisfied in bed has been wired by porn to think a normal man should last as long as those men they watch in pornography. They have an unrealistic expectation from their husbands because comparison has set in.

You may be surprised that some wives have become adulterous because they are looking for that kind of man they saw in porn film. In reality, such a man does not exist except he is on drugs.

Some men are not left out. They want their wives to moan and give the vibes of the lady they watched in the porn film. They forget that she is an actress whose emotions may not be invested in what she's doing because she's working for her money.

She must moan (whether she enjoys it or not) to satisfy her pay masters- film producers. In fact, that's probably what the director told her to do to make the porn sell. That flexibility you see in bed is not so real and even if it is, that's what she has been training for.

More so, your wife has put to bed and added some weight courtesy your 'pounding'. You have sent her to the labour room severally. You cannot expect someone who has passed through the pain of motherhood to go through the rigours of calisthenics-like sex. Her body changes are real and she's trying to cope with her body too.

*You cannot expect from your spouse what you watch in porn. The more you watch porn, the more unsatisfied you'll become with your spouse in the bedroom. If porn has affected your expectations, quit now*.

If you are having bedroom problems, there are sanctified counselors that can help you out. In this kingdom, we have our ways of solving bedroom problems.