2Pet1:5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; NIV
CHARACTER INVESTMENT
A woman whose husband was guilty of wife battery reported her case to their Pastor. Her Pastor perceived that her husband was hot-tempered while she was insultive. The Pastor gave her a broomstick and told her to put the broomstick in her mouth always. He told her that whenever her husband was angry, she should not talk so that the broomstick won't fall. She obeyed her Pastor and the husband was surprised that his verbally abusive wife had changed. The wisdom of learning to keep silent in moments of anger saved their marriage. Most times, character flaws that destroys most marriages are the negative characters that couples failed to deal with before marriage. For example, a sexually immoral man who haven't mastered the flesh may continue his sexcapades in marriage likewise a woman. Some may think marriage would cure that character flaw only to discover that marriage amplifies it. You don't marry to change a bad character, you change before entering into marriage.
You need to develop the strength of godly character before entering into marriage. You need it for life and in marriage. Aside marriage, we need godly character in all our endeavours. Why some homes are battle grounds is because of the character flaws of those involved. When two people come together to be joined as husband and wife, they are bringing their personality and character into the marriage. If the man is hot tempered and the wife is insultive and intolerant, that marriage will always have problems because of the personal character of those involved. Hot-tempered people don't take insults. Though you're praying for "Mr/Mrs" right to come your way, you need to add godly virtues to your life so that you won't ruin your marriage with your hands. The most important renovation project that must be done in your life as a single is you.
Let me ask you this sincere question, can you marry someone that is exactly like you in character? Don't be quick to give an answer. In the opening text, Apostle Peter admonished that we add certain godly virtues to our lives. Telling us to 'add' mean that we have a part to play in the development of those virtues. As a single, you have to turn yourself in for a character development project. The character flaws you fail to deal with today may deal with you in marriage tomorrow. Even though Apostle Peter admonished that we add those virtues to our lives for a smooth relationship with God, i m sure those virtues would help singles and the married folks have blissful homes. Beauty is good but it is fleeting, it is not bad to be tall dark and handsome. Painfully, physical appeal is not enough to sustain a marriage. As you invest in developing a godly character, you're securing your home.
Father, I need your help. I receive grace to develop godly character in Jesus name