Hebrews 13:17 Obey your spiritual leaders, and do what they say. THEIR WORK IS TO WATCH OVER YOUR SOULS, and THEY ARE ACCOUNTABLE TO GOD. Give them reason to do this with joy and not with sorrow. That would certainly not be for your benefit ( NLT).
IF NOT ACCOUNTABLE
On several occasions, I've had some married women who complained about their husbands to me.
Most of their complaints range from spiritual lukewarmness, infidelity, stubborness, laziness, etc.
Looking at their complaints critically, I noticed I couldn't help or meddle in their marital affairs considering my place in their lives. I'm too far, they needed someone close to help them out.
I resorted to asking about whom their husbands are accountable to but their response to that question was 'None'. Not even their pastor. Their reactions and responses showed they married loose cannons. Same applies to some men.
My intention for asking was to refer them to whosoever their husbands are accountable to. Unfortunately, 99% has none.
It is not wise to marry someone who has no one that can call him/her to order. A single who has never been under a discipler or someone with an oversight role over him/her is worth running from.
No man on earth is permitted to be the 'alpha' and 'omega' of his life. Some persons boast about this saying 'no one on earth can talk to me'.
If no one can talk to him, run. If she listens to nobody, please run. Even as a minister, we shouldn't get to the level where no one can talk to us. If one positions himself as such, a fall is inevitable.
Those who parade themselves as the alpha and omega of their lives are bombs waiting for time to explode.
This doesn't mean individuals should be robbed of their independence. However, there should be a measure of submission to higher authorities who have an unbiased and genuine interest one's life.
I'm afraid seeing singles settle for an ordinary church goer that is not known by the leadership of his/her church. From experience, persons in that category wreck havoc.
Don't agree to marry him because he's nice If he's accountable to nobody, he's a dangerous option. If she has no proper pastoral oversight, she may be dangerous.
Then I will give you shepherds after my own heart, who will lead you with knowledge and understanding( Jer 3:15).
A single without proper pastoring oversight is dangerous.