SINGLES, RUN Pt.8

FROM HIDDEN RELATIONSHIP

I once watched a Mount Zion film on this subject. There was a phony brother who was in a secret relationship with a sister. Only his friends in crime knew about it no accountability figure. At the end, she got the lady pregnant, aborted for her and she lost her life. Her death was not traceable to the guy.

One thing I did immediately after I proposed marriage to my wife was to inform mentors and fathers. To be factual, I did not even wait for the time I proposed before telling some of them.

When I was still praying and trusting God for clarity on the matter, I carried some of them along. The week after she accepted my proposal, I traveled to Akure to see her Pastor.

I knew she was carrying him along as well just that I didn't speak with him until after we started courtship. With the little knowledge I have then, I made my relationship open to those that could offer biblical counsel.

I don't believe in keeping relationships away from accountability figures. No i don't. One easy way to identify a trickster is when he/she avoid making marital intention known to those that can give proper guidance.

Those who keep their relationships away from the counsel of accountability figures often fall victim of deceit.

Don't you think something is wrong with being in a relationship where your pastor and those who can hold you accountable knows nothing about?

The ideal thing is that you carry your pastor along or the person you submit to every step of the way. Before proposing or accepting a marriage proposal, let it be done advisedly under the counsel of a spirit-filled counselor.

You don't just pick a spouse from anywhere and tell your pastor to join you in holy matrimony. It is absurd. That's not surprise but foolishness. From the word go, he should know about it.

You don't use a weighty matter such as marriage for a surprise package to those that can mentor you properly. Submit to the laid down marriage structure of your church If they have one or to someone who can help put order in place.

I know this counsel may sound a bit strange because of the paucity of true pastors today but that doesn't invalidate this bible-based counsel.

Obey your spiritual leaders, and do what they say. THEIR WORK IS TO WATCH OVER YOUR SOULS, and THEY ARE ACCOUNTABLE TO GOD. Give them reason to do this with joy and not with sorrow. That would certainly not be for your benefit ( Hebrews 13:17 NLT).

If you're afraid of your pastor's scrutiny and judgment about your relationship, that's an acceptance of error. That's a journey in the wrong boat sailing to a destination filled with pains and disappointments.

As a single, beware of those who might want to convince you to keep your relationship secret from accountability figures. They don't mean well. Such persons inflict wounds secretly and make you lick your wounds secretly- run.