SINGLES, RUN Pt.11

FROM THE IMMATURE

There are babies living in adult bodies. They have the physique of an adult, beards and size of soneone you'll call mature but in their character, they are babies.

There are immature adults in relationships, some are already married causing problems for their spouses. It is worse when two immature adults marry. If a mature single marry an immature partner, the former becomes a parent to the latter.

One of the many many signs of an immature single is inability to manifest the fruit of the Spirit. That Christlike attitude will be absent.

Such a person will throw tantrums like babies do. In fact, the moment you notice that the person is given to throwing of tantrums, that's a baby in adult body- run.

We are all growing. This is not to suggest that you lookout for a perfect person. None is, but your partner must be committed to growing spiritually. If he/she accept his immaturity as "that's just me" and refuse to take it to the Lord, please run.

Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, (1 Pet 2:2).

The immature person lacks discipline and self control. This virtue is crucial in building a successful marriage: "Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control"( Pr 25:28).

Inability to decide independently is another sign of immaturity. Marriage is for the mature not for boys or girls. If he/she can't make decisions independent of his/her parents, that's a big baby.

I understand that families play a great role in our lives especially when closely knitted. However, if closeness robs the person of independent decision-making, he/she is a baby.

The maturity of those in relationship includes finances as well. I don't counsel two jobless persons to marry. Money has a great role to play in marriage. Lack and poverty can kill love.

I am not in anyway suggesting you become super rich before marriage or that you lookout for the super rich. Just be comfortable and be able to meet basic needs of life for yourself and the other person.

Someone said "Romance needs finance". Sisters, don't marry him because he has families abroad. Dollars and pounds may not rain on your marriage. He must not be lazy. He must be doing something with his hands. That doesn't exclude you as a sister.

You don't buy a car and start looking for money to fuel it. Rather, it should be that you have money for maintenance then you buy a car. That's a vivid illustration of how marriage should be.