Proverbs 19:14 Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD (NIV).
Years back, I watched a program on t.v. where they match- made singles. It was called 'blind date'. They just match- make people randomly by asking questions to see If their ideologies align.
A desperate single will always give answers sweet to the hearing because he/she want to marry at all cost. That doesn't mean his answers reflect his values. Such program give room for pretense. Truth be told, you cannot get a godly spouse like that.
Some may ask, 'what If the match-making is done by my pastor'? Well, your pastor is not infallible. His judgement may be bias as no one is permitted to take the place of the Holy Spirt in your life. It is good you hear God for yourself and be sure your values align with the person you intend marrying.
A preacher shared what he did before getting a spouse. He told his friends who were pastors to be on the look out for a wife for him in their churches.
On several occasions, some of his friends who were pastors called him to come check several ladies out. When he got there, he wasn't pleased with them because they lacked what he was looking for in a wife.
He struggled in the flesh because he was using gimmicks and human arrangement instead of trusting God to connect him. Eventually, he got tired of searching through human recommendations.
He decided to organize a reunion meeting of his secondary school class mates. He met his wife in that meeting and that was the end of his wild search. God is a master match-maker. He cannot fix you wrongly.
You've paraded yourself before men for too long so that you can be noticed. What some sisters do to be noticed by brothers can be funny. When I was single, a sister sent her pictures to me via email. She wanted me to notice her at all cost. At a point, she made her pastor call me asking If I was interested in her spiritual daughter.
Another sister told me God instructed her to be praying for me. I was happy God raised an intercessor for me. It was during my birthday she told me about her intention. Some brothers have resorted into interviewing sisters via social media to ascertain if they fit their specification.
Do you think you'll get sincere and honest answers that way? If you ask a lady looking for husband if she love God, do you think she will say no? You'll discover that she loves all the things you love automatically because she can sense what you want to hear.
Anyone can tell you what you want to hear the moment they sense desperation in you. You need to rest in God's eternal love and trust his ability to give you your spouse. He knows how to fix you.
The moment you exclude God from your search( which most people do), you'll resort to gimmicks. I love what King Solomon said, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take" (Proverbs 3:5-6 NLT)
Father, I receive the grace to be patient and to be led by your Spirit in Jesus name.