Prov18:2 A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.
I had no peace about my relationship back in the university. I struggled to keep that relationship even when it was obvious it was heading no where. Why was i struggling to keep it? Shame. That's the word. I felt it would be shameful for a "spiritual" brother( whom some are looking up to) like me to call it quit. I imagined the several persons( friends&families) who would feel disappointed after making them believe God led me into that relationship.
One day, I visited school during I.T.period. I was in the hostel room of a brother when I heard a voice that said, "If you don't dissolve that relationship, it will land you in trouble". Dear single, don't struggle to keep a relationship out of sentiments. As long as you know God is not involved or may be you're seeing red flags, please quit honourably. You don't need to fight, just close the door without banging it. Don't marry out of shame and fear. This syndrome is common to church folks. They're afraid to quit their relationship because of what Pastor would say.
There are several persons trying to manage a relationship that won't work. They've seen the red flags of uncontrollable anger, infidelity, battery, lack of focus, laziness and others yet they keep managing. They're considering what people (friends, families&brethren) would say. Some are thinking time is no longer on their side so they just want to get married anyhow. They think they've gone too far in the journey of courtship to disembark. As the saying goes, "a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage". It is not God's will for marriages to break but there's nothing wrong in breaking a courtship ( on genuine grounds) that may lead into a marriage that will eventually break. Be wise.
Father, I receive the grace to wait on you for direction in Jesus name.