MARRIAGE AND PURPOSE MUST ALIGN

One of the things we rarely hear people talk about when it is time for marriage is purpose. Often, adults encourage mature singles to marry because of age or the proverbial biological clock that is ticking. Mothers often put pressure on their sons or daughters for marriage because they need grandchildren. It is uncommon to see someone who raises the question of purpose with singles when it comes to marriage. Myles Munroe said that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. There are couples that entered into marriage without knowing the purpose for which they are in marriage. They have abused their marriages and they've been abused as well. There are general/ common purposes for marriage. During wedding ceremonies, you'll hear the Pastor read out some of the purposes for marriage which include: companionship, to avoid immorality&procreation. These are the general purposes for marriage.

However, there's a specific purpose for the union of two in marriage. Everyone on the surface of the earth came to this world for a purpose. Your purpose is your God-ordained assignment. It is the reason God is keeping you alive, your purpose is the reason you've gone through all the dealings( sweet or bitter). Your purpose is the impact God has designed you to make. You can only leave your footprint in the sand of times when you discover and fulfill your purpose. When the time to marry comes, God's grand design is to lead you to marry someone whose purpose in life will boost and catalyse yours and vice versa. Your union is to amplify the assignment and purpose you both came to the world to fulfill and not to destroy it. The assignment of some folks halted or paused after marriage because they married wrongly. They got on the wrong ship and they had to drag along in life. Kenneth E. Hagin of blessed memory revealed that his wife's assignment in his life was to raise a godly generation of the Hagins even to the fourth generation. That's exactly what she did before she died. All the children she raised are in ministry today. She wasn't dragging microphone with her husband. Her purpose in their marriage wasn't on the pulpit but to raise children who will have pulpit ministry. That's not as easy as you think. She literally trained ministers.

One is meant to chase a thousand and two ten thousands. That's the power of a purposeful union. Unfortunately, not all two's are chasing ten thousand. If one was chasing a thousand before marriage and two can barely chase hundred after marriage, there's a problem somewhere. I tell singles that spouse discovery is easy once purpose is discovered. There's nothing as sweet as having a spouse who support and catalyses your journey in life borne out of the understanding of God's purpose for your life. When you pray for a spouse, what God gives is a purpose mate. If the person refuses, God would shop for another person who can fit into your life's assignment. As far as God is concerned, the assignment doesn't change but men& women who will fulfill the assignment can be changed. That's how I answer singles who ask questions like "What if God's will for my life refuses to marry me" OR "Does God have one specific spouse for my life"? If there's anything God guard jealously in our lives, it is our assignment here on earth. Long before I got to the junction called marriage, I knew I was heading for ministry. Knowing I have the call of God upon my life streamlined my choice. Even though I didn't know whom I was to marry immediately after my discovery, however I knew whom I shouldn't marry. Knowing your purpose in life will help you out of certain confusions. Life is a journey. Once you know your destination, you'll know the right park to board the vehicle that leads to your destination. As a child of God, you can't marry indiscriminately. Knowing God's purpose for your life will sieve some choices out of your life. God's kingdom want to profit from our marriages. He wouldn't allow his children to marry anyone that would destroy his investment. Discover your purpose in life first, then spouse discovery becomes easy. Purpose discovery should lead to spouse discovery.