The marriage of a popular & anointed preacher crashed. He married by supernatural connection as stated in his book. In fact, the story about how he found his wife attest to the fact that God still leads in matters of marriage yet his marriage crashed.
The news of his divorce went viral and shook the christian world. I know some will lose their strength saying things like: "If Pastor xxx can divorce, then, our marriages are not safe".
What some people fail to realize is that you get from marriage what you both put into it not what you wish. A pastor may be sowing the wrong seeds into his marriage while a church member may be sowing the right seeds into his marriage. A working marriage is no magic or miracle.
If anointing or being in God's perfect will was enough, the marriage of that preacher wouldn't have crumbled. Thank God he was humble enough to admit the fault was his. He realized where he missed it. He amended his ways and his marriage was restored. Hallelujah!
As good as anointing is, it is not what makes marriage work. If it were, some anointed men of God wouldn't have broken marriages. Ability to pray long hours is good but I have seen prayer warriors with bad marriages. That's why I tell singles not to marry someone because of anointing or ability to pray.
Commitment to the principles of God's word is what makes marriage work and this requires the effort of both partners. Marriage is admission into the ministry of works.
There is a common misconception some people have about marriage. They believe that if God ordain two people to marry each other, the marriage would work out fine automatically. That's not true.
Finding the perfect will of God for marriage is not an immunity against marital crisis. You are to make your marriage what you desire it to be. If you want it hot and troublesome, the key is in your hand. If you want it blissful and glorious, you both are the determinant.
To make your marriage last and stand the test of time, you must consciously work at it through forgiveness, tolerance, effective communication and getting your focus right. As long as you nag, hold grudges, focus on the weakness of your spouse, not kind&caring, you will be tearing your marriage apart.
One of the common reasons given for divorce is irreconcilable differences. Under God, all differences are reconcilable including Infidelity If there is genuine repentance. Those whose marriages are standing have mastered the art of reconciling their differences so that their union can stand.
Ask those couples that have been together for years, they probably have worse differences than yours, yet they worked it out.
Don't quit that marriage. You can work it if you both are willing. As long as both of you have a commitment to see your marriage blossom, you can be helped.
