Romans12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect ( NLT).
TEST FOR SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY BEFORE MARRIAGE
I use to know a sister who said "No" to a Christian brother because he refused to have sex with her. She wanted to test this brother's sexual prowess. Satan planted an unbeliever around her who had sex with her and even got her pregnant.
After getting pregnant, she did a traditional marriage and moved in with the guy. The last I heard about her union wasn't pleasant. Now, she's facing problems that sexual compatibility cannot solve.
Several times, I've heard and read some counselors say nothing is bad with premarital sex as long as marriage is in-view. Later, I realized some among the brethren see nothing wrong with it.
Some brothers are on a testing spree. What they are after is just to check sexual compatibility before marriage. Some sisters are actively involved in this as well. This is one of the reasons we have so many broken relationships.
As a lady, do you think you can satisfy a man who has bed several Jezebels and Delilahs? You may think he mean to marry you because of his sweet talks and promises but the moment he sees your nakedness, he may lose interest because he'll compare you to the Jezebels&Delilahs. You can't match up, they've charmed him.
Unserious guys have hoodwinked some ladies to think sex is an expression of love. The moment they lick the honey, they quit. That is why such heartbreaks are painful.
Dear sister, how many guys will you sleep with before they find you sexually compatible? How do you think a man measures sexual compatibility? What are the parameters? The earlier you know that marriage is not all about sex, the better for you.
There is so much talks about sex today that makes it look like it is the only thing in marriage. In as much as I agree it is an issue in some homes but we have stretched its importance too far. This has created some anxiety even among the unmarried. The curiousity such awareness creates makes the mind to wander and desirous of exploration.
The word of God says, "For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour",1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 KJV.
Premarital sex is not fun, it is a sin before God.
If any man cannot wait till you're legally married, he is not for you. Don't be afraid to lose a brother/ sister that lack self control in sexual matters. If such person quit on the ground of not being able to wait till you're married, God has saved you from a potential adulterer.
A fornicator today is a potential adulterer in marriage tomorrow. The ability to delay gratification is a sign of maturity.
You need to marry someone you can trust even when you're not available for sex because you can't be available everyday. No serious married man/ woman is available for sex at all times except they're jobless.
Talking about sexual immorality, the writer of Hebrews liken sexually immoral people to Esau: "See that no one is sexually immoral, or is godless like Esau, who for a single meal sold his inheritance rights as the oldest son"(Heb12:16).
On the altar of premarital sex, destinies have been wasted and birthrights sold out. Do this when tempted: "Run from sexual sin!...", 1Cor 6:18, NLT.
Father, purify my heart. I receive grace to run from sexual immorality in Jesus name. Amen