Psl 11:3- If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
When you marry without paying dowry, you are a kidnapper,thief&fornicator at thesame time. Even if you have been living for years with kids and your neighbours have started calling you 'mama &papa junior', God is seeing a thief.
Gen24 showed us an example of Abraham's servant paying dowry to marry a wife for his master's son-Isaac. God isn't against any aspect of our culture that is in line with His word and I strongly believe that if what is demanded isn't alcoholic&fetish, you have to pay it.
Children born in such marriages are not safe because there's an inheritance of illegality passed on to them&as such need serious deliverance. Whenever we go against the divine order of doing things, a wrong foundation is laid&the devil has a legal ground against us to torment us.
If you're living with a woman under your roof, stop having sex with her until you go pay her dowry.
If you're in this category,involve your pastor& make arrangements on doing the necessary things on time, Jesus is coming soon.