I know a woman who had a health challenge. Whenever she was in need, she would reach out to me asking for help. I always try my best for her but I noticed she rarely acknowledge receipt of monies sent to her neither does she say thank you until one presses to know if she has received the money. At first, that did not bother me until after a while.
There was a time I was in great need myself but she bombarded me with text messages and calls. I tried explaining to her that I was in great need myself and was indebted. She did not pay attention to all that and she kept bombarding me with messages using emotional blackmail. In the long run, I sent some money to her twice despite being in great need. It wasn't easy but I needed to do it because of her condition.
As usual, no acknowledgement or appreciation. I became curious to know If she got the alert. I sent four text messages asking to know If she got the money, she did not respond. Then I changed tactics. I sent another message saying I want to send another money but I needed her to acknowledge receipt of the former. Lo and behold, she replied and she even sent her account details again. Meaning she got the previous messages but she ignored them until I promised to send another.money. Then I concluded she is an ungrateful fellow.
Many pray and fast for favour. Some pray against the spirit of disfavour and wage war against powers preventing them from helpers but their attitude repel favour and helpers. I wish I can tell everyone that favour is not hard to get but a bad attitude is often the problem.
There are unbelievers who will thank you several times for a little favour rendered to them until their show of gratitude becomes "embarrasing", yet, some believers will not even send a "thank you" SMS but will go to church and give testimony about favour and open doors. You see, when people don't get favours, it is an attitude problem not a spiritual problem.
The attitude of gratitude is the first thing you need to attract favour. Favour and help often come small as a test. If we show appreciation to those who show us little favour, big one will come. There is something you need to know about the nature of humans; when you appreciate men for favours shown to you, that becomes a motivation for them to do more at other times.
If your attitude is that of "what has he done for me that no one has done"? You will repel favour and helpers. God created us to be interdependent. The answer to most prayers we pray is in the hand of another man, a good attitude is the key to unlock what we need.
"Thank you" should not be far from your mouth when people help you even if the help is little. As a minister of the gospel, when people bless you or your ministry, thank them and pray them. Don't say things like, "they are helping themselves when they give" OR "They are giving to God not me. Their reward is with God".
That might be true in a sense but they are helping your vision as well. In fact, If they take that money to another preacher in town, God will still bless and reward them but you will lose out. This attitude is the reason some valid ministry vision have suffered financially. Stop the charismatic arrogance and be a grateful soul.
As a preacher whose vision thrives on support of believers, one thing I don't fail to do is to thank my ministry partners and pray for them individually when they support our vision no matter how little except those who give anonymously. I have done my best to have the contact of everyone partnering with us. Even when they have not supported us for a long time, they'll still get a message of appreciation and prayer from me at least once a week.
Favour is not scarce just that most people have not cultivated the attitude that attract it.
