Proverbs 22:24-25 Don’t befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul ( NLT).

IF HE/SHE CAN’T CONTROL TEMPER

Years back, a single sister told me about her boyfriend who abused her physically. I didn’t bother to tell her to pray about it. I told her to quit immediately.

Her response shocked me. She said, “I think he loves me that’s why he is beating me”. I made it clear to her that domestic violence is no sign of love. I thank God she did not marry that bully of a guy. Today, she’s happily married.

Only victims of domestic violence/ verbal abuse can tell the emotional trauma and physical damage they’re suffering. It is hell on earth. Some have lost their lives in such marriages yet It could have been avoided If they had taken their flight earlier.

Uncontrolled temper is the seed of domestic violence and other forms of abuses in marriage. If he/she cannot control his temper, run from that relationship.

Our opening text clearly warns that we should not make friends with an angry man. If scriptures counsel against friendship with an angry person, do you think marriage to such a person will be recommended?

Ecclesiastes 7:9 says, “Control your temper, for anger labels you a fool” ( NLT).

There are issues that do not need special prayer or consultation. That’s not to downplay prayer. If you’re in an abusive relationship, don’t tell me you’re still praying about it to be sure of what God is saying. God has spoken- run.

While in courtship, if you notice he/she is given to uncontrollable temper, even If he hasn’t laid his hands on you yet, feel free to run. You might be a victim soon.

Certain things are predictable. From his disposition and attitude to others, you can predict what he’ll do to you. If she can abuse elders verbally, she can abuse you. If he’s a street fighter, it will cost him nothing to beat you at home.

Uncontrolled anger is what fuels those things. If he cares and pamper you while in courtship but flare at others at the slightest provocation, just know he/she has kept you in reserve bench for his wrath.

Dear sister, don’t manage him If he’s given to uncontrolled anger. If he has ever slapped you while in courtship and calls it a mistake, that mistake will happen over and over again in greater proportions. Quit now.

Dear brother of God, If she can verbally abuse anyone and you know it, she will do same to you and your mother. No matter how beautiful, elegant, and gifted she is, talk to your legs and run. You can’t manage her.

ACTION POINT: Assess your relationship and be sure you’re not in the company of someone with temper issues.

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