It is observed that most ladies who were not raised by a loving and caring father often fall victim of sexual predators who act as a father figure in their lives. Such ladies also seek to marry someone who will shower them with fatherly love.

This account for the reason a very young lady would prefer to marry a man old enough to be her father or be a mistress to a married man with fatherly touch. They always seek to fill the void created by a bad or absentee father.

In some cases, such ladies also get attached excessively to their pastors or religious leaders. Aside seeing their pastors or leaders as spiritual heads, they adopt them as fathers who will act in place of their fathers or husbands who is not living up to their expectation.

It is also the reason give "excessive" respect and honour to their pastors. They are seeing in him a father they missed in their biological dad. This is one of the reasons some women (married) fall prey of preachers who are sexual predators.

A smart groomer who understands this will act as a father figure to such persons, play the role of a father and ensure nothing is lacking but in the process, he uses such ladies to satisfy his sexual needs.

At first, those ladies may not mean to be involved sexually but they'll succumb to pressure because the man is filling a gap and they wouldn't want to lose him. That is why some abused girls or women prefer to stay with the person abusing them instead of cutting off. There are abused person who love their abusers.

That is why I counsel fathers, husbands and guardian male figures to be there for their children. Fathers should not hurt with words. There are ladies seeking love in the wrong places with the wrong persons because the man that should have overdosed them with love is uncaring.

Dear daddies, tell your daughters you love them often. Buy them gift and show you care so that another man won't sweep them off their feet. Ladies raised by good fathers rarely fall victim of manipulative men who try to play the role of fathers in the lives of ladies.

Dear sister, in case you were raised by an absentee father or a father that is unloving and uncaring, I want to tell you that you will never meet a man who will fill that void as much as God does. The only father who satisfies is God.

You need to understand the fatherhood of God and how he works in our best interest even to the extent of sending his only begotten son to die for our sins. As you study scriptures especially the new testament, you will understand the fatherhood of God better.

1 John 3:1 says: "Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God!".

Daily as you walk with God, always ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the father to you. He will do it and you'll understand the fatherhood of God in practical reality. You cannot afford to seek the love of a father in the arms of mere mortals like you. What you'll get might be abuse.

Even if your biological dad played his role well in your life, until you understand the fatherhood of God, you will never be satisfied. The fatherhood of God is incomprehensible.