Satan uses seemingly good and nice gestures to groom people for sexual immorality. If you hear stories about how some persons were groomed for sexual immorality, you'll see that the enemy we are dealing with is tricky.
Some married women who has someone eyeing them at work fell into immorality because of harmless help rendered to them on a rainy or sunny day by way of riding in the person's vehicle. The man gave them a lift seeing how they were struggling/ stranded on the road. It became the norm, from there, an emotional affair began.
It might not even be a case of riding in the same vehicle with the person always. I once read a post where a lady said that an affair can start from the point where a man helps them to fix a deflated tyre. You know most women that drive do not know how to fix tyres and that can leave them stranded by the roadside.
Some men fell into the trap of Jezebels because of little care shown to them through cooking. A lady in the office sent by Satan will start bringing cooler of assorted food all in the name of "I don't want my boss to go hungry during break". From there, emotional affair will set in.
I know a pastor who abandoned his family and eloped with another woman who was the highest donor in his ministry. Probably because he has suffered in ministry and this other woman knew it, she began to pump money into his church. He thought it was breakthrough not knowing he was groomed for a fall. Sometimes, this is the hidden secret behind the fall of preachers. They go with women who show great care and concern.
Now, you should note that it is not bad to be helped but it is wrong to be emotionally attached to those God might be using to render one form of help or the other.
The moment your heart longs to be helped by the same person, maybe by way of riding along in his/her car after closing hours, expecting his/ her 'cooler ministration'( food), expecting/demanding for monetary help or support or the person sending money to you even when you did not ask, all these are tell tale signs that you are groomed for immoral action.
Immorality among married/ single folks doesn't happen in a vacuum. A lot of things are involved which are deemed little at the onset but they are Satan's strategies to get you down.
Dear men, beware of that nice sister at work or in church. Stop eating her food. Let your wife's food be enough for you. If someone is bringing food for you at work, tell her to stop and make arrangement with your wife on how you'll go to work with food. Your female secretary doesn't need to make your tea. Do it yourself, tea is not hard to make. Again, it is not a must that your secretary be a female.
That lady that is all over you asking for counsel or money may just be grooming you trying to find an in-road into your heart through pity. If she needs help, inform your wife and let her receive the help through your wife. Refer her to your wife. That's a protection on its own.
Dear women/ sister, don't assume you cannot fall into immorality. Satan has some "Mr Nice Guys" whose show of care is more than your husband's. At work, they'll be ready to run your errands, drive you home or to the nearest bus stop, available to fix your tyres and be there for you when you need help. Mark them and run. They are always appealing and attractive but you don't need them.
The antidote against falling into sexual immorality has always been "Flee" not prayer and fasting. The more you try to rationalize it thinking it is just a harmless gesture, you are at the brink of falling. One thing will lead to the other and you'll bite your fingers later. Stop riding in his car the moment your emotions set in. Sacrifice to live in purity by joining public buses where necessary or go home with a female staff. You and another man alone in a vehicle always is a trap.
Daughter of God, it is not honourable to be collecting money from another man that is not your husband. Some ladies have men or bosses at work that gives them money and they think their "Oga" ( boss) is a nice man. That gesture is grooming you. Stop it.
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