One truth that is hard for adults to admit is the fact that they can be groomed for sexual immorality. Oftentimes, the issue of grooming is mentioned when talking about abuse of children by sexual predators but we forget that the dynamics is almost the same.
I have spoken to adults who admitted falling into sexual immorality. These are Christians who would not have chosen the option of immorality If it comes announcing itself but they were schemed into it by latching upon their ignorance and carelessness.
Most sexual groomers start as friends with harmless intentions. That alone is the reason they are hard to identify. Often times, they appear to us as the people we need in our lives and they appear to be sincere in all intent and purposes. They are good at giving their potential victims unusual attention and display nice gestures. They may come as a prayer partner.
No one will reject someone who shows genuine interest in his/ her affair. We are naturally tilted towards those who show us love. Isn't it? Satan knows this, so he uses that open door to send someone with a bad intention to lure us into immorality.
If you ask a married man with a mistress or side chic as we call it in Nigeria, the reason for his illicit relationship, the friendliness of the woman outside is one of the factors that led him into her bosom. The attention she gives and her caring attitude is her selling point.
Same for women committing adultery. They found a friend they can talk to in the other man who is not their husband. He gives them attention while they give him their bodies. Though this doesn't happen in one day. The sexual groomer ensures that friendship is built over time until there is emotional attachment before unleashing his real intention.
They drive their victims to that point where they'll be needed always by their victims. Some even come as counselors whom their victims cannot do without. Somehow, their victims always drift towards them especially in times of trouble because they're always there. Ready to give due attention.
Women/ ladies starved of attention by their spouses are often victims of such men while men married to nagging and unfriendly wives are likely victims of a female sexual groomer. They are always nice to a fault and will be willing to do just anything to please the man. What the spouse can't do, they'll offer to do it.
What is the antidote against falling into the hands of a friendly sexual groomer as a married person? The answer is simple. Let your spouse be your best friend. Don't give that space in your heart to anyone.
The idea of thinking the opposite sex ( aside your spouse) are best kept as friends is a ploy of Satan to get you. I've heard many ladies say they prefer male friends to female friends. That alone is a red flag for me pointing to something Satan can use against them.
Trouble begins the moment you are comfortable being a friend with the opposite sex aside your spouse. You chat freely into odd hours, share intimate issues/ problems, he/she uses endearing words displaying top-notch gestures to you. Anyone may fall for these things.
If this describes your situation, you are trapped already. Break that friendship and reunite emotionally with your spouse. Satan will make you see qualities your spouse lack that is in the other person. It is a ploy of the enemy to get you laid.
You don't need the opposite sex as your friend or confidant. It is the bait of the enemy to lure you.
