Song of Songs 8:6 *Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm. For love is as strong as death, its jealousy as enduring as the grave. Love flashes like fire, the brightest kind of flame* ( NLT).

AVOID LOVE KILLERS

I read online several marital cases presented in courts. My interest has always been to know why the couples are seeking divorce. I have read and watched cases that left me stupefied. Among those who seek for dissolution of marriage are christians and preachers inclusive.

I concluded that same reasons presented by those seeking divorce in court can cause anyone’s marriage to breakdown If not avoided. Certain things are better avoided than managed. The causes of most marital breakdown aren’t ‘spiritual attacks’ as some posit, but they are caused by the wrong attitudes and behaviour of those in marriage. Those attitudes are what I call ‘love killers’.

Some have habits and attitudes that can kill love in their marriage. Abuse(physical, verbal, emotional&psychological) neglect, drug addiction, abandonment, laziness, irresponsibility, intolerance, adultery, poverty, etc can kill love in any marriage.

*Do not forget that love is a living thing. One of the characteristics of living thing is death. Anything that carries life can die including love. If love is consistently attacked with brutality, it can die*. 

I have seen men married to very good wives and vice versa but their marital love died when the unconquered flesh manifested in their marriage. When a man or woman carries a love-killing attitude around, If they marry 20 times, their marriage will run into problems 20 times.

Scriptural injunctions that enjoins we shun the flesh and follow after righteousness are not only for heaven’s sake but for our benefit even maritally. In 1Tim 4:8,  Paul says, *”…but godliness is profitable unto all things( marriage inclusive, emphasis mine)*”. Ungodly character kills love.

*It is impossible for couples to live godly lives towards God and each other in their marriages and still experience marital turbulence. Never!* If such happens, then God’s word is broken but we know God’s word has integrity. Godliness is profitable unto all things including marriage.

*If flesh is crucified and dealt with, most marriages will last*.

Romans 8:13 says, *”For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live*”. I am one of those who believe that believers do not really marriage seminars as much as they need ‘word’ seminars and daily crucifixion of their flesh. If two christians can be true christians in deeds and conduct, it will be a smooth sail in their marriage.

If love is dying in your marriage and it seems it is about to pack up or has packed,  ask sincerely to know If you’re the one killing love. If you carry around any of those love-killing habits or attitudes, ask God to help you.

*PRAYER*: Father, I receive grace to mortify the love-killing attitudes in me in Jesus name.

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